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I Don’t Know My Status

Being free, independent, and newly single, I was not looking for anything too serious. Hell, right after the breakup I wasn’t even looking for sex. The thought of being with another guy after three years and two serious, long term boyfriends was strange to me. I was timid and nervous in this new world of…

Glee depicted the dichotomy of mass vs. fem guys with closeted football player Dave Karofsky and flamboyant, theater star Kurt Hummel. Later, along with the development of mainstream gay culture, Blaine Anderson was introduced and seemed to be a mixture of both masculine and feminine qualities.

The Decay of “Masc v. Fem”

With the rudimentary structure of Grindr a few years ago, users were only offered one picture with limited text. Guys then had to get to the point and ask for exactly what they wanted. “No fems.” “Masc only.” “Chill bro looking for same.” The reason most of us got into this business of being gay…

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Mikel Gerle on Politics, Leather, and LA Band of Brothers

Mikel Gerle talks about the balance between working in politics and the leather community as well as his campaign for West Hollywood City Council for March of 2015. He delves into the world of the International Mr. Leather contest as well as the formation of the LA Band of Brothers. twitter: @mikelgerle wehowelove.com MikelGerle.com Directed…

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Gay Marriage: What Now?

As I was sitting outside with my friend Aaron (who is also gay), my phone buzzed in my pocket. Slightly tiffed that I had to interrupt my tanning session to respond to a text, I pulled it out of the pocket of my shorts to see who had messaged me. My brother. Strange, he doesn’t text…

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Gay Guilt and “The Normal Heart”

Ever since coming out, gay men from the older generation have been trying to teach me about the travesty of the AIDS epidemic. “You don’t know how good you have it.” “You don’t know what it was like.” “You don’t appreciate how much we fought for you.” This kind of guilt may work for other…

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Gay or Straight? The Difficulties of talking in Code

I’m at a party at another school and I meet this guy. His name is Tim. “Why are you wearing a cowboy hat?” I ask. “Well, I’m from Texas and my friends didn’t think I seemed Texan enough. So I signed a contract saying I’d wear it every time I leave the house.” I’m visiting…

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Slut-shaming an STD Poster

The office where I work just recently got new STD testing posters. At first I thought the posters were a clever way to get gay men to read the poster and get tested. They addressed all target markets including models of multiple races and they even used punny humor if you weren’t already sold by…

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TBT: The Football Game

“I’m lost. I have no idea where I am!” “What do you mean you’re lost??” I’ve been on the phone talking to my drunk boyfriend James for the past thirty minutes trying to figure out where he is. It’s the first football game of the season and he got too drunk at the tailgate so…

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Gay Men are Dangerous

“Watch your drinks. Don’t let anyone make you anything.” “Get ready to have orgies everyday.” “You’re going to come back covered in STDs.” This is what they told me before I left for my trip to the BVI, which I’m sure you’re tired of hearing about. My friends and family were worried that someone as…